True dat Will:)
So here is a specific thing you can do. I am ALWAYS asked about quick money, becoming a millionaire, or love. Many of the folks who ask have no plan, are spending money on dumb-stuff, trying to get what they want instead of what their parent wants and wait a miracle to fall in their laps.
This is going to be mind opening, so sit down everyone: WRITE STUFF DOWN!!
1. If our people would simply document our plans, we would be mostly there. If you want to loss weight, save $100K, make $1M, afford a vacation, put your kids through college, or SAVE YOUR MARRAIGE...writing it down is the start.
Can you imagine if you went on your job and nothing was in writing? What if you went to the bank and all your records were in some guys memory..."no Mrs. Jones I don't recall you making that deposit". What if your doctor had no records? If your marriage is as important as your bank account, plan out what you want in the relationship and manage it as if it were your job.
Write down the 5Ws (Who, What, When, Where, Why).
The why part is critical. If you can convince yourself that you need to do something...guess what...you'll do it! This is how you cultivate your soil.
2. Next you need to act on the plan. Say you want to save $100K. Look for places that you are blowing money: Coffee breaks, eating out, Hair do, new purses, car washes, the club, cable, cell phones, CHURCH etc… You could very well be spending $1000s of bucks each month on things counter to your goal! Don’t worry, once you get the paper you can give your 10% for the lord:) This is what I mean by planting your seeds. The same in relationships, find out what makes you and your partner happy. Don’t try to change your mate…try pleasing the one you love.
3. Now you need to do get rid of the weeds: this is like the law of attraction stuff. Same principle here…the difference is that I call this area PRIORITIES. There will be negative things that crop up. The car got a flat tire, the frig broke, the kids need new shoes, the heater stop working, an unplanned baby was born, there was infidelity.
Compare the problem to the “Why” you came up with above. If the frig trumps college…buy the frig. If buying your own home trumps the flat tire…figure out a new way to get tires. If being with your soul-mate trumps the one night stand…figure it out…work it out.
Think about your goal as a real corn field…ie….you can’t use real ears of corn to buy tires! You don’t burn down a field become the corn didn’t grow high enough or the crows won’t stop trying to eat it.
4. Now that you have beaten back the weeds and bugs, you need to nurture your garden. Your field will not grow without water, fertilizer, TCL, and over watch. You need to make sure you are constantly doing stuff to make your plan work. If for instance you wanted to save a troubled marriage, you need to do the things that your significant other needs to grow. You couldn’t grow corn my pouring your favorite drink on it. You have to give corn what corn needs. You have to enable corn to grow. Same concept.
Most important here, sometimes you have to go back and reassess why the corn isn’t growing the way you’d like. Or you may need to plant a different crop to get the results you are looking for. Maybe, you are not good for this type of corn and this type corn ain’t good for you!
5. Reap the rewards of your labor. Caution: Make sure your “Why” matches your end result. If you wanted $1M to buy your dream home, but think your reward is reaching $250K to buy a high end vehicle…you may be harvesting your crop too soon and destroying your soil. If the corn keeps catching the same bugs, no matter what you spray…never settle for immature corn. Relook at step one, plant a new crop and move on…
If we follow this very simple formula, there is almost nothing we cannot do. The secret word here is “DO”.